Admitting there is a war is the first step in winning the war. Is it being fought on my territory? Who is the war between? Is it between me and others or is it a war within? Is it a war that requires time or is there an easy solution? Are my allies really alliesContinue reading “Tug of War for time.”
Category Archives: Mental Wellness
Letter of Gratitude: Paramedic
Dear Jim, I knew but I didn’t know why your energy was pulling me in. At first, I thought it was just because helpers know how to help people and I needed help to know how many people were in the race. You helped me. It’s always a good day when you come across otherContinue reading “Letter of Gratitude: Paramedic”
Maintaining Grace through Emotional Abuse
The biggest compliment other than THANK YOU for making me feel worthy … are comments on my GRACE. Yes, grace. Most days, I honestly feel like a bull in a china shop. As a matter of fact, a few months ago, I was using the hashtag WILDEBEEST because that’s how I perceived myself. Lawless. WithoutContinue reading “Maintaining Grace through Emotional Abuse”
Gaslighting? Trangulation? They are BOTH exhausting.
I’m tired of having the circular conversations. I’m tired of picking up the pieces. I’m tired of reminding others of why I’m value added. I’m tired of looking at motivational quotes and thinking CLEARLY THEY GREW UP WITH A NON DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY. I’m also tired of taking courses where I have to remind myself thatContinue reading “Gaslighting? Trangulation? They are BOTH exhausting.”
Awareness Saved My Life
I’m a 30 something-year-old Chitalian-American that has spent the last decade living and working in Asia. I’m rarely without some sort of stretch goal. This current chapter is addressing 13 years of emotional & mental abuse from a family member. Mental wellness is close to my heart. I intentionally focus on the wellness rather thanContinue reading “Awareness Saved My Life”
Reiki Journey
My toolbox is constantly expanding. I was first introduced to Reiki in 2009 or 2010. I was in Singapore and having dinner with a friend. We were celebrating my birthday and started having a conversation about chakras. My friend commented how I had a strong bond with the spiritual world. He was testing his theoryContinue reading “Reiki Journey”
Healing Overdrive: Understand – Accept – Let Go
I’ve realised that my morning writing is calmer (and more accepting) than my afternoon writing. This is an interesting reflection because it means that I’m allowing the dysfunction of the day affect me. By no means am I an abuse expert in the textbook context, however, I’m an expert on experience. I’ve been through someContinue reading “Healing Overdrive: Understand – Accept – Let Go”
Dear Family that stood still
Dear Family that stood still, I would love to credit you for doing nothing but your inaction was actually an action. The responsibility of an adult is to protect children, whether they are your own or not. It’s your responsibility to protect people that are unable to protect themselves. I’m pretty sure this is outlinedContinue reading “Dear Family that stood still”
Happiness + Peace = JOY
About a year and a half ago, I was waiting at a bus stop in Singapore. I was having the most delightful conversation with a new friend. She runs a company focused on JOY. I operate from a place of happiness. Only when I’m aligned do I actually harness JOY. I didn’t realise this nuanceContinue reading “Happiness + Peace = JOY”
“Your abuser’s trauma does not justify them abusing you” – Unknown
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