I’ve realised that my morning writing is calmer (and more accepting) than my afternoon writing. This is an interesting reflection because it means that I’m allowing the dysfunction of the day affect me. By no means am I an abuse expert in the textbook context, however, I’m an expert on experience. I’ve been through someContinue reading “Healing Overdrive: Understand – Accept – Let Go”
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Dear Family that stood still
Dear Family that stood still, I would love to credit you for doing nothing but your inaction was actually an action. The responsibility of an adult is to protect children, whether they are your own or not. It’s your responsibility to protect people that are unable to protect themselves. I’m pretty sure this is outlinedContinue reading “Dear Family that stood still”
Happiness + Peace = JOY
About a year and a half ago, I was waiting at a bus stop in Singapore. I was having the most delightful conversation with a new friend. She runs a company focused on JOY. I operate from a place of happiness. Only when I’m aligned do I actually harness JOY. I didn’t realise this nuanceContinue reading “Happiness + Peace = JOY”
“Your abuser’s trauma does not justify them abusing you” – Unknown
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Awareness before Change. Acceptance before growth.
The Narcissist’s web is incredible. Just when you think that you’ve figured out all the games, one crops up out of nowhere. Most of the time making you feel like a completely paranoid lunatic. Remember, it’s just a game. They want a response. It’s like watching a car crash. It’s like when you are fallingContinue reading “Awareness before Change. Acceptance before growth.”
Dear Biological Father, Please stop.
Dear Biological Father, I know you are hurting. I know that you are in pain. I know that you are failing with tools to manage your pain. I still do not agree with how you continue to lash out at other people, but I understand. A number of people told me to cut my lossesContinue reading “Dear Biological Father, Please stop.”
But FIRST, Remember to Forgive Yourself
I have a LOT of conversations. I talk to myself, to others and to plants/animals. Sometimes you can even catch me talking to the clouds (those conversations are kind of sacred). And then I wait. I wait for a message. I keep my mind clear and my heart open. And I just digest things asContinue reading “But FIRST, Remember to Forgive Yourself”
‘Tell me your past so I know how best to love you in the present’ – Unknown
Through my healing journey, I have acknowledged that my sharing made me feel extremely disconnected to the outside world. I had so many emotions and things bubbling up on the inside that sometimes my posts are all over the place. That’s the beauty of a blog. It doesn’t really have to make sense. Nothing isContinue reading “‘Tell me your past so I know how best to love you in the present’ – Unknown”
9 skills learned from Emotional Abuse
I had a few heavy posts so thought I’d mix it up with something light-hearted. Abuse sucks monkey balls. It’s not fun. There is a lot of second-guessing, deflated sense of self, crying, isolation… all sorts of heavy consequences from abuse. But what is the silver lining? What skills were strengthened through the storms? AttitudeContinue reading “9 skills learned from Emotional Abuse”
My Eulogy
There are so many emotions around sharing this piece with the world. I actually wrote it last summer and asked a dear friend to read it in the event I was murdered. Even if we lost touch, I made him PROMISE to be the one to read my words. At that moment, I needed peopleContinue reading “My Eulogy”