My higher self is my best friend

I’m not even going to pretend. Most of my life is in autopilot. This has served me well because I cannot remember the last time that I was in normal situations. When greeted with dysfunction, I tighten my ponytail, smile, and navigate the sea like a 70+-year-old sailor. It’s NOT my first rodeo and IContinue reading “My higher self is my best friend”

Being a survivor of Domestic Violence

And every once in a while the Universe decides to congratulate me with a string of decent people. Or perhaps I’m always surrounded by decent people, it’s just when I’m at peace with myself and the world, that I can properly identify the decent people. I’m not sure… Breaking my silence on domestic violence hasContinue reading “Being a survivor of Domestic Violence”

Cleaning up the fog with a soft heart and a strong mind.

So many things to say but I’m unable to find the right words. My heart is conflicted on a few levels. The last few weeks, it’s been cluttered with embracing being discarded by my mother, betrayed by my great auntie, emotionally dismissed by my great uncle, criticised by a lover, chased by kindred souls, supportedContinue reading “Cleaning up the fog with a soft heart and a strong mind.”

Being unapologetic in my healing journey

I’ve reached a new layer in my healing. The Universe keeps presenting me with situations forcing me to stand up for myself. About 6 months ago, I would have a huge tug of war between my mind and heart. When someone greeted me with aggression, I thought of them as a hurting person and excusedContinue reading “Being unapologetic in my healing journey”

Example of (Hoovering)

The culprit: High school friend Example: The Hoover was disrespectful to me in 2015. Rather than apologise like a normal human being, he has attempted to re-establish contact in 2016 and again in 2018. Claiming that he’s apologized, the only communications I’ve actually received has been him attempting to condition me into accepting abusive behaviour. Since he liedContinue reading “Example of (Hoovering)”

Letter of Gratitude: M

Dear M, Gosh, I haven’t spoken your name in years. The few times that you cropped up, you were referred to as The Terrorist (no offense). I’m not sure if I needed to use a moniker because I still kept space for you in my heart or if I subconsciously deleted those 14 months ofContinue reading “Letter of Gratitude: M”

EXAMPLE OF (TRIANGULATION)

The culprit: Uncle Example: An Uncle is a flying monkey. Flying monkey is the role, Triangulation is the action. Mental/Emotional warfare is the game. In healthy family dynamics, people speak directly to one another. In dysfunctional family dynamics, people speak indirectly. (remember this is a game – think of an adult version of the game ofContinue reading “EXAMPLE OF (TRIANGULATION)”

Letter to Heal (Mo)

Dear Mo, I’m not sure where you are in life but I wanted to get a few things off my chest. I understand that not all friendships are meant to last a lifetime. Most people in life are merely a lesson. Once the lesson is realised then something happens to force people to part ways.Continue reading “Letter to Heal (Mo)”