Reframing encourages focus on forward movement

Throughout the last few months, I’ve been finding my voice with close relationships. Well, more accurately, using my voice with people I allow into my space. My space is sacred and just because someone is allowed in, does not mean they get to stay. Season.Reason.Lifetime. I treat everyone as a lifetime until proven different. OnceContinue reading “Reframing encourages focus on forward movement”

Evolving perspective on Paranoia: C-PTSD

One of my favourite things about creating new habits is observing the shift within. Running has been my go-to for over 20 years. To this day, it’s such a magical moment when my mind shifts from circular (and counterproductive) conversations to absolute clarity. It’s as if a lightbulb is switched on. Or perhaps the bloodContinue reading “Evolving perspective on Paranoia: C-PTSD”

You gave love freely and without agenda. You simply loved & You loved really hard.

Dear Jess, This year was one for the books. It’s a year that defined you in so many ways. A few weeks ago, you described the year in a single word BETRAYAL. I’d like to correct you. The year can be summed up with a different word, LOVE. You found love where it didn’t exist.Continue reading “You gave love freely and without agenda. You simply loved & You loved really hard.”

My higher self is my best friend

I’m not even going to pretend. Most of my life is in autopilot. This has served me well because I cannot remember the last time that I was in normal situations. When greeted with dysfunction, I tighten my ponytail, smile, and navigate the sea like a 70+-year-old sailor. It’s NOT my first rodeo and IContinue reading “My higher self is my best friend”

Dear Spirit, Thank you for being

Dear Spirit, Thank you. This season has been one of the biggest challenges I’ve ever embraced. It was bigger than climbing corporate ladders. It was scarier than moving to a new country. It was emotionally, mentally, and spiritually destabilizing… There were moments when I wasn’t sure if I had lost the plot or if IContinue reading “Dear Spirit, Thank you for being”

Gaslighting? Trangulation? They are BOTH exhausting.

I’m tired of having the circular conversations. I’m tired of picking up the pieces. I’m tired of reminding others of why I’m value added. I’m tired of looking at motivational quotes and thinking CLEARLY THEY GREW UP WITH A NON DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY. I’m also tired of taking courses where I have to remind myself thatContinue reading “Gaslighting? Trangulation? They are BOTH exhausting.”

Narcissistic Abuse is death by 1,000 papercuts

As expected, there is a wave of abuse that is brewing. The abuse is not directed towards me because abusers have accepted that I have grown. I am strong enough to set [healthy] boundaries and hold people [publicly] accountable for abusive behaviour. My growth is the subtle shift from testing my threshold of suffering inContinue reading “Narcissistic Abuse is death by 1,000 papercuts”

Reflecting on Tools: Writing vs Sports

When one is building a new skill, it’s necessary to minimise as many factors as possible. For instance, I have been leaning on sports for as long as I can remember as an emotional processing tool. Yes, I love sports. Yes, sports make me feel better. The underlining reasoning for doing sports was a constructiveContinue reading “Reflecting on Tools: Writing vs Sports”

The hidden​ benefit of letters of gratitude

I’ve been thinking about the current alignment of the planets and the moon… apparently, Mercury is in retrograde (again)? I’m not 100% sure but this seems to be code for the abundance of energy being thrown around! I’ve been learning about how some people are empowered and others are using this energy to cause trouble.Continue reading “The hidden​ benefit of letters of gratitude”

I’ll admit it, I isolate myself

I’ve been thinking about my 3-week cycle. I’ve been thinking about WHY I push people away. I’ve also been thinking about deep and meaningful connections. And then also how social media has made the world crazy by amplifying emotional (vs rational) reactions to just about everything. About 10 years ago social media platforms started poppingContinue reading “I’ll admit it, I isolate myself”