Reiki Journey

My toolbox is constantly expanding. I was first introduced to Reiki in 2009 or 2010. I was in Singapore and having dinner with a friend. We were celebrating my birthday and started having a conversation about chakras. My friend commented how I had a strong bond with the spiritual world. He was testing his theoryContinue reading “Reiki Journey”

9 skills learned from Emotional Abuse

I had a few heavy posts so thought I’d mix it up with something light-hearted. Abuse sucks monkey balls. It’s not fun. There is a lot of second-guessing, deflated sense of self, crying, isolation… all sorts of heavy consequences from abuse. But what is the silver lining? What skills were strengthened through the storms? AttitudeContinue reading “9 skills learned from Emotional Abuse”

Difference between toxic and abuse

There is a subtle, yet important difference between toxic people and abusive people. At least in my world, they are different, not interchangeable. A toxic person is someone that is blissfully unaware of their garbage. Putting others down is their way of life and it doesn’t stop. They don’t necessarily approach you. They are justContinue reading “Difference between toxic and abuse”

Narcissistic Abuse is death by 1,000 papercuts

As expected, there is a wave of abuse that is brewing. The abuse is not directed towards me because abusers have accepted that I have grown. I am strong enough to set [healthy] boundaries and hold people [publicly] accountable for abusive behaviour. My growth is the subtle shift from testing my threshold of suffering inContinue reading “Narcissistic Abuse is death by 1,000 papercuts”

Reflecting on Tools: Writing vs Sports

When one is building a new skill, it’s necessary to minimise as many factors as possible. For instance, I have been leaning on sports for as long as I can remember as an emotional processing tool. Yes, I love sports. Yes, sports make me feel better. The underlining reasoning for doing sports was a constructiveContinue reading “Reflecting on Tools: Writing vs Sports”

My writing process

Recently, I’ve been asked a few times about my writing process. Well, to be clear a combination of my writing process AND my clarity of self. I take that as a GIANT compliment because my self-image and what is seen are not 100% in alignment, yet. I need to be less harsh on myself andContinue reading “My writing process”

I do not negotiate with terrorists.

I’ve been pouring my heart and soul into my writing these last few weeks. Most of the words are not public… I reached some new territory for my processing and needed to give myself some personal space. I have found that writing makes me vulnerable and I maintain balance by sharing, observing, sharing, observing, sharing…Continue reading “I do not negotiate with terrorists.”

Poop + Sugar ≠ Brownies

Building Block: ROSE-COLORED LENS It took me YEARS to build a rose-colored lens. It was not easy to train my mind to find the good in every situation. I can laugh because some people call it a silver lining. Others call it annoying optimism. For me, having that rose-colored lens allowed me to believe thatContinue reading “Poop + Sugar ≠ Brownies”

Reiki certified. Different paths, same results.

Day 15. Freewriting. I have been working on a few certificates. The newest skill to perfectly compliment my writing journey, is Reiki. I know many ways to maintain the harmony of my mind, body, spirit. Reiki certificate is formalising what I’ve basically been doing for years. Deconstructing what I was doing on autopilot. Another benefitContinue reading “Reiki certified. Different paths, same results.”

words to build. words to break.

Day 10. Freewriting. Connectedness. Words are so important. Thoughts, words, energy, accomplishments… they are all connected in some way. Everything is important… my morning freewriting (stuff I share on my blog) has been magical to help identify some kinks in my armour. Perfect warm-up exercise for my deep dive into my emotions as well. LastContinue reading “words to build. words to break.”