Dear Mo,
I’m not sure if I’ve sent you a letter yet but you’ve been on my mind the last few weeks so thought I would spread the love.
Our friendship has seen a LOT of seasons! A LOT! Check out the pictures from my 11th birthday party below… I hope the memory makes you smile!
You have always been one of my sassiest friends. I LOVE that about you. It’s straight up, no nonsense, get your stuff together and stop wasting my time directness that I think a lot of people could benefit from having in their life. After all, time is the only thing that really matters!
2017 has been a rollercoaster – it’s been filled with a LOT of people provoking me and then telling me I have anger issues for standing up for myself. Lots of people telling me I’m broken. Crazy town! I’ve done so much work on myself over the years to soften the sassy part of me (sassy is heavily criticised by takers), trying to learn sarcasm (I prefer to just be direct and tell people what I want, sarcastic people are basically a-holes), remove myself from toxic situations (biting my tongue has never been a strength but I’m learning not to engage with the certifiable) or flat out just anticipate and be too busy when the circus comes to town (be nice or go away trumps everything). In the process to become little miss perfect, I forgot to embrace the colorful parts that make me, well, me. I forgot that I’m already perfectly imperfect.
You said something during our last catch-up that resonated with me on a new level. You commented that it seemed as though I was surrounded by people that didn’t know where to direct their anger. Since my default has typically been to solve a problem then digest later, I ended up absorbing a lot of the aggression and lost sight of myself for a quick minute. I allowed the opinions of others to seep into my soul. Your comment was paramount in planting a seed to stop absorbing the troubles of others. Easier said than done but thank you for helping point out my blind spot! Thank you for being a living example of sass. Thank you for keeping it real. Thank you for pointing out that I was being manipulated. Thank you for helping me spot check myself. Thank you for reminding me that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. Thank you for reminding me that emotions are beautiful, even the softer ones. Thank you for being supportive when I needed to rebalance and fill my cup up again. Thank you for reminding me of one of my most basic mantras “Everyone deserves my love but not everybody deserves my time.”
Thank YOU for being my most prized Authentic Sassy Mc Sassy Friend! Here’s to another 25+ years of friendship…but who’s counting?!
Most importantly, thank you for being an awesome soul!
Love you, sassy bits and all,
Jess
#LetterOfGratitude